The Real Meaning of Memorial Day
The above photo from Iraq is in color and sometime in the future it will be the subject of articles concerning Memorial Day.
the following commentary was published in the Delaware Coast Press.
The real meaning of Memorial Day -- We enjoy freedom today because of the father, the brother, the son, the husband, the pal who never came home.
Commentary by Terry Plowman
Memorial Day now suffers the same secular fate as Christmas -- its commercial value has far outstripped its original meaning. That fact is especially evident here in a resort area, where Memorial Day weekend is considered the kickoff to the busy summer season.
Although there is nothing terribly wrong with that, and we couldn't change it anyway, we hope readers will give a few moments thought to the real meaning of Memorial Day this weekend.
The trouble with evoking memories from past military conflicts is that it is like looking at a grainy black- and-white photograph or newsreel (an outdated term in itself).
For many Americans who can barely remember life without color photography, looking at these black- and-white images has little impact. They represent another time, one that is hard to connect with today.
But for those who lived through the past few wars, there is color in the memories, and for many of those who served in the military, the color is blood red.
For them Memorial Day is not a history lesson, quickly forgotten like other lessons from our school days. For them it is the father, the brother, the son, the husband, the pal who never came home.
And for those of us living today, the war dead are our vivid connection to Memorial Day -- because it is an eerie fact that many of us would not be here today were it not for a quirk of fate that allowed our fathers to survive a war.
How many of the more than 400,000 World War II dead would have fathered the geniuses, the creators, the liberators of today's generations?
How many of the 116,000 World War I dead, the 54,000 Korean War dead, or the 58,000 Vietnam War dead? How many of the 500,000 Civil War dead would have fathered children whose impact would still be felt in our lives today?
Actually, many of these dead patriots were themselves only 18 or 19 years old, so they were robbed of the chance to leave us any legacy other than the memory of their sacrifice.
A wounded seaman who was taken aboard a rescue vessel during the D-Day invasion was quoted in Life magazine about the fundamental mystery of war:
"(The ship) was loaded with the bodies of sailors, soldiers, airmen; the wounded and survivors. And on board was the body of my friend Pete Petersen. He was going to be 21 on June 22. One thing you always wonder is, who makes that decision: Who dies and who doesn't?"
On this holiday weekend, let's not forget the meaning, the mystery and the tragedy behind Memorial Day.
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Survival Tips--Hopefully Never Needed! Good tips to keep in mind.
A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts: 1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.
2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women whose clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing. (You may think that something like say overalls are a safe bet, but keep in mind, all it takes is cutting the straps and boom....easy access.)
3) They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.
4) The time of day men are most likely to attack and rape a woman is in the early morning, between 5 and 8:30 a.m.
5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked at is grocery store parking lots. Number two is office parking lots/garages. Number three is public restrooms.
6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don't have to worry about getting caught.
7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.
8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn't worth it because it will be time consuming.
9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas, or other similar objects that can be used as a weapon from a distance, in their hands. Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you're not worth it before they get close to you.
10) Several defense mechanisms are: If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk, I can't believe it is so cold out here or we're in for a bad winter. Now you've seen their face and could identify them in a lineup, you lose appeal as a target.
11) If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would no be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.
12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes), yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.
13) If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you can by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh -- HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as > > hard as you can stand it; it hurts.
14) After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists > told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he's out of there.
15)When a guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.
16) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.
Well girls, it sure is a lot to remember, but hopefully some of it would kick in if we were ever in that kind of predicament, sure hope we aren't though
AFTER YOU READ THIS, FORWARD THIS TO EVERY WOMAN YOU KNOW. IT'S SIMPLE STUFF BUT IT COULD SAVE HER LIFE.
Charley's Recommendation Charley recommends : The Buffalo-Mozzarella Salad Served at the Capital Grill during the height of the Tomato season. 220 Merrill serves it all year round and the Townsend also serves the salad.
|Flying Scott Class Tue 5/31/2005|
Flying Scot class session. Come down and sit on the dock. There is a good view of the river. Then join the students in the restaurant at dusk.
|Rendezvous St Clair Mi 6/3/2005 to 6/5/2005|
Travel by boat or car and meet at the Charles F. Moore Harbor in St. Clair. The Boardwalk along the St. Clair River allows you to get "up close and personal" to boat traffic, and is a great place to watch the boats come in. If you arrive by car, you may want to spend the night at Murphy's Inn (810.329.7118). Relax during the day and then prepare for a feast when we dine at the Voyageur Restaurant at 6:00 pm Saturday night.
Directions: From 1-94 take exit 257/Fred W. Moore Hwy east approximately 8 miles. Make a right onto Riverside Ave. and proceed to dock #5 at the Marina. The Voyageur is two blocks from the Marina..
Skippers; Please notify Gary Re/fox (734.421.6352) in advance if you need a boat well, a crew or if you already have a crew..
· Latitude 42-49-20 Longitude 82-29-16.
· Sailing Singles radio frequency - channel 71.
· Charles F. Moore " " - channel 9 orl6 · In channel depth is 9 feet. When entering the harbor, stay in the center of the channel. The marina is on the port side after you pass under the highway..
· Bridge opens on the half hour and the hour
Friday: on your own.
Saturday: Breakfast and lunch on your own.
Dinner is at the Voyageur Restaurant at 6:00 pm Menu: salad and cottage cheese, fresh garden vegetables, green beans, red skinned potatoes, broiled white fish, chicken Florentine, roast sirloin au jus, apple crisp, tea/coffee.
members $23.00 non-members $27.00.
Sunday : potluck breakfast in the pavilion.
Livonia MI 48150.
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|Mr B's in Clarkston Sat 6/4/2005|
Selective Singles will be meeting at Mr. B?s in Clarkston Dixie Hwy. north of M-15 intersection for Dinner and Dancing starting at 8 pm.
|St Robert Bellamine Sat 6/4/2005|
This is a monthly social dance for middle aged single adults. The first Saturday of every month. Includes refreshments and DJ for your evening's pleasure. For directions or questions call Michele 313-996-8644 Price_Member: $10.00 Non_Member_Price: $10.00
St Robert Bellarmine Church Hall is located at the corner of W. Chicago and Inkster rds, in Redford Michigan.
|St Dunstan's SAT 6/4/2005|
Sweet Charity, a musical play which features such memorable tunes as "Hey, Big Spender" and "If They Could See Me Now !".
St. Dunstan's Theatre Playhouse is located at 400 Lone Pine Road, Bloomfield Hills, MI 248.644.0527 Lone Pine is north of 16 Mile and runs from Woodward to Telegraph
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|Rammler Golf Sun 6/5/2005|
The Somerset Singles Ski and Golf Club will be at the Rammler Golf Course on Sunday June 5, 2005. Contact Bev Essary 586-573-7151 or bessary@sbcglobal,net for reservations. call 3 days before by 8pm. Arive 30 min prior to start time. call to cancel. Click here for more.
Rammler Golf Course phone number is 586-264-4191 and it is located on Utica Road and Schoenner. North of 16 Mile Rd.
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